Feelings were explored and more practical difficulties uncovered. Due to the loss of his leg he felt not poised and wobbly when they tried to make love, as they everlastingly used the missionary position. When the doctor asked him why he had to transact it in that position he was amazed and said he had none thought of doing it any other way. This led to a debating of other positions and options. It was necessary to consider by what mode he would feel if he was in the underneath position while he already felt ‘flattened’. There had been no absolute communication with his wife about his doubts and fears. He felt she did not need to upset him, and she tended to say things like, ‘It’s all right, don’t worry about it.’ He felt out of countenance of the sexual difficulty, and of the loss of his limb, hoping that when he limped people would think he had a handle of arthritis. There was a need to grieve for all the losses.
Following this company with the doctor, Alan was able to talk to his wife at amplification, and he felt they could now share the problem. He had a smile adhering his face as he said that they had experimented with renovated positions and that it was now fine and there were not at all problems.
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